garychester.org 2/26/09
Regarding my 2/26/09 Men Who Win newsletter about victory over porn, I wish to put a plug in for something that has set God loose in my own life. 95% of Christian men don't have it, and most Christian women also are missing it. I used not to have it. I'm glad God enabled me to find it.
It is something absolutely crucial for God to work to deliver me from some life-controling problems.
It is something I never dreamed that could give me continuously and consistently increased peace and freedom (as opposed to absolute total peace and freedom which I doubt ever is possible on this side, but I'm in hopes I'm wrong).
This something has given me power in my Christian walk to gladfully serve God through ministering to others without guilt, shame, or self-condemnation.
My family will say it's made me easier to get along with. They observe a new kind of husband, dad, and step-dad - not a bad thing.
The something is accountability - what I need most but desire the least. But for my own gladness, it's got be part of the mix in my life.
I find most men don't understand what this word that has such a negative connotation is and isn't. Accountability is not reporting into your parole officer whose main purpose is to nail you. It is instead communing with a trusted confidant and friend or two who knows you - warts and all - and you know him just as well.
This brother has permission to ask you the hard questions and to speak into your life. He knows your story, and you know his. There's a soul-knitting, spirit-expanding friendship between you.
When I confess my spills to my brotherhood, it is always healing and liberating to my soul. Not such a bad thing for accountability -- the term with such a bad connotation.
To learn How to form your own brotherhood, go to my website, www.menwhowin.com. Click: accountability friendships and listen
